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Parents and educators need to create a supportive environment to help teenagers through their turbulent years. Photo courtesy: Pexels


How to Support Your Teenage Child’s Social and Emotional Development

Open and clear communication can lead to a better relationship with your teen.

Teenage years are crucial as children make the transition to adulthood. It can get difficult for parents to communicate with their teenage kids, as they don’t always relate to  the emotional turbulence inside their kids’ minds. It’s even trickier as teenagers aren’t able to express themselves freely to adults. 

The challenges faced by teenagers are a mixture of social and emotional changes, which start at the onset of adolescence, and play a crucial role in their development. Socially, teenagers go on a path of self-discovery, form new relationships, begin to experience peer pressure and start to seriously think about their careers, which makes it a tumultuous time for them.

Emotionally, a child entering teenage begins to experience hormonal changes, which lead to emotional turbulence, self-esteem issues, self-consciousness, and the start of addressing conflicts within themselves and with others. 

In such circumstances, the onus is on parents and teachers to be able to get through to the teenager and provide them with a supportive environment, where they can express themselves freely. 

If you’re an educator or guardian, this seven-step approach can help in building a supportive environment for your child: 

Be a Role Model 

A parent is often the first adult a child looks up to which is why it’s important you make your home a safe space for your child.  Talk to your teenager about the importance of making the right choices in difficult situations, and chat with them freely about why those choices need to be made. Set an example by talking about some of your life choices and the reasoning behind them. Only if you set the precedent, is your teenager likely to follow suit.

Listen to Your Child 

This step is especially important as the most common feeling that teenagers have is not being heard. Break that chain by encouraging your child to open up to you and truly lend them an ear. Sit at the table for a meal and encourage them to talk about their day, their friends, etc. 

Explore and Talk About Relationships

At this age children want to explore relationships and experience romantic love. As a parent, normalize those feelings for your teenager by talking to them about your own romantic past, if there is one. Hearing about your experience as a teenager learning to navigate romantic relationships, or even hearing you talk about school crushes, will help them to relate with you and not feel isolated about their own experience. 

Make your teen feel heard by sitting down with them and truly lending an ear to them.

New Experience: Ask the Child to Reflect

As a parent, it should also be your responsibility to teach your teenager how to deal with adversity and come out stronger. Urge them to assess the situation they’ve had to be in, be it an altercation with a classmate, bullying or cyberbullying, having to make morally right choices, etc. and what each situation has taught them. This will help them become emotionally mature, and also appreciate your guidance in the process.

Acceptance of their Friends in your World 

At this age friends become integral to teenagers as they lean on them for emotional support. Parents need to accept the importance of these friends in their child’s life and give them space and freedom to cultivate these friendships.

Give your Perspective to them about how you Feel as a Parent

Communication with a teenager has to be a two-way street. While you must listen to your child, it is equally important for them to understand what you feel as a parent. Sit with them and talk to them about your feelings and concerns as that will help them understand your perspective.

Engage in Games 

It can be daunting to try to befriend a teenager. Therefore, it is important to engage with your child as much as you can through games like card games, board games and video games as this allows you to continue engagement in a neutral setting and enjoy spending time with each other as well.

The author is a school counselor and psychology teacher at Jasudben ML School in Mumbai, India 

Also read: Want Children to Learn Empathy and Social Skills? Let Them Play With Dolls


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